The reading was done over the phone with a woman I had never met, who lived 500 km from me. There was no way she could possibly have known anything about me other than my name. To begin she drew a few cards and said a couple of things I’ve now forgotten. Then, she suddenly paused and said, “I’m getting a name; does the name David mean anything to you?” Of course I said yes and, overwhelmed with emotion, explained about my friend.
She told me David was with her, and wanted to give me a message. The message was, “Thank you, thank you, for being such a wonderful friend”. “Thank you so much! I really needed to hear that”, I told Betty. I asked if David was alright, and she said yes, he wanted me to know he was OK, and that he was also saying, “You were right. Death is NOT the end”.
There were other messages too, such as, “Thanks for the flowers”, which I watered every day while thinking of him. I’ve never had flowers that grew like that, before or since. It was an incredible display. There is no way Betty could possibly have known about that.
Photo courtesy of Luc Viatour
I thanked Betty for the messages, telling her how much it meant to me, and she replied, “No Jane, I’m picking him up through you. You are extremely psychic, and David has been with you since he died, because you are the only one who can hear him".
I had often felt him around (I still do), and heard him speaking to me in my mind. One night I even felt him touch my hand. This experience changed my life in many ways and there is one thing I now know absolutely: while suicide may not be the ideal solution to a problem, there is never any punishment for it. It does not generate negative karma, as many people believe. The person who suicides is treated no differently to anyone else, except that there may be a healing after transition.
David, who had been so miserable, is now happy and healed. I know it helps people to have some understanding of where they’re going after transition. Otherwise, they just start to project their beliefs, which, once we’re out of the body, manifest instantaneously. That’s why David wanted to thank me: I’d given him some idea of what to expect once he had transitioned and realised death was not “nothing".
On the other hand, it’s those left behind who suffer, and many go on to suicide themselves. I will never forget seeing David’s grandchildren at his funeral (he was a very young grandfather). Watching as tears poured down his two year old grandson’s cheeks was heart wrenching. I know most people would say this little boy was too young to understand what was happening, but it was obvious he was absolutely devastated.
I just want to be clear here: I’m not an advocate for suicide. It causes great pain and confusion for “survivors”, and for that reason, it’s not a choice I’d recommend.
I originally wrote this message (somewhat altered here) as a response to a question in an online forum. I've posted it here in the hope it may be of assistance to others.
Your comments, as always, are most welcome.
Love Chanson.
Hello again. Life is karma. We choose everything. We control everything. Everything that happens, everyone we meet, everywhere we go, everything we do and become. We may not choose each and every thing individually in a knowing and conscious manner but we choose it none the less. This is not to say that our lives are predetermined or that our fate is known; simply that we ask for everything that we experience whether we remember asking for it or know why we asked for it. This is beautifully simple and reassuring if you accept it as such. Our lives are a whisper of a note, of a word, of a line, of a verse, of a song. We know this instinctively. Pretending that an invisible all-knowing entity decides what we do and will become is ignorance compounded by laziness. We own every aspect our lives, even the tormented and wretched ones. We may not always know the 'why' but we can always ask the simple question; what can I learn from this situation, event, act, person, pet, joy or calamity? The answer exists in quiet introspection, measured breaths and the simple joy of listening to all of your many selves that wait to guide, soothe and enliven your spirit. Live the dream. Dream the life.
ReplyDeleteHi Jack
ReplyDeleteSorry it’s taken me a while to get back to you. I’ve been a little caught up with other things, but now I’m back! Thank you taking the time to read and comment on my article. I wholeheartedly agree with your views – it seems we are following the same pathway.
I agree with you that “(p)retending that an invisible all-knowing entity decides what we do and will become is ignorance compounded by laziness”. I would also add fear to this equation. Seth tells us people also turn to religion out of fear: the fear of their own power. This fear leads them to look for answers outside themselves and to seek guidance and rules for living, thus they relinquish their power, placing it in the hands of priests, vicars and gurus.
Btw, you write well. I particularly like “(o)ur lives are a whisper of a note, of a word, of a line, of a verse, of a song. We know this instinctively”. Have you ever thought of starting your own blog? Lovely to hear from you again.
Love Chanson
EXCELLENT article & writing!
ReplyDeleteAs someone who's always been enraged at the foolish, foolish, FOOLISH, judgemental, harmful way that society reacts to suicide (among other things!) I find this article beautiful and extremely touching. Thank u for sharing. My heart now aches for the poor, poor thought-forms of some suicidees who may be trapped in their own self-created purgatory after suicide though, sighzzzzz! I hope that they eventually find relief :( Do u know what eventually happens to these?
Lastly, i just want to add that although i myself don't advocate suicide, I view it objectively and I even see it as a means to an end in certain extreme situations. I can never understand how a society just can't seem to understand the depths of despair, pain & suffering a person must've had to endure, and/or even pure fright, before making that decision, and were they in that person's same, exact situation and unique set of life circumstances, there's a super high probability that they themselves would've made that same, exact decisions! I can understand if feelings of anger, confusion, abandonment, shock etc were mixed in with that compassion/empathy, but it's this nasty, unrealistically judgemental attitude that stems from the cesspit of organised religion that gets to me! Whether death is caused by cosmic influences or suicide, the mourning is the same! So is the grief adjustment period! It may vary in substance and form, as each situation is unique, but it's the same coming to terms with grief that mourners face, so i really don't get this society at all!